Monday, February 13, 2012

Breastfeeding: How and Why I Made the Choice + Some Tips

March 27, 2011; Medical City

My decision to breastfeed was actually brought on by numerous literature and studies saying that "breast milk is still best for babies."  As early as my high school days, I already made the decision to breast feed when I have babies of my own.

The benefits are numerous.  At its most basic, it is the most natural sustenance a mother can give to her baby.  It contains antibiotics that protects baby from infection and the onslaught of various sickness.  Psychologically, it also strengthens the bond between mother and child and increases the baby's self-esteem.

So, when my first son, Nico was born, despite the fact that he was born through c-section, I did everything I could to ensure that Nico gets my milk although I know he had been fed formula milk already because he had to be incubated and my milk just was not flowing.

But, I did not give up.  The doctor said, I just had to pump my breast regularly even though there was no milk flowing.  I could not visit my son for breast feeding in the first three days because he had respiratory issues that the pedia said was normal.  Nico was a big baby -- but he was in an incubator.  I continued to regularly pump my breast.

When I was allowed to go home on the fifth day after Nico's birth, I continued my routine, and it was at home, in the middle of the night, when milk started to trickle to the milk bottle.  On our first visit, on Nico's 6th day, I was able to give Nico at least 2 ounces of breast milk.

I continued with my breast pump routine, until I was able to regularly provide milk for Nico which was also getting better everyday.  We were able to bring him home on the 10th day.

I fed Nico every three hours following the routine of a baby book I read.  And as advised by the nurses in the Nursery, I fed him 15 minutes per breast.

However, after his second month, I started to store the extra milk that I had in the freezer.  This enabled me to keep a regular feeding routine for Nico, measuring and regulating the amount of milk that he took.  It became easy for me to come to work from time to time.  But, it was only on the 6th month that I was able to go back to my regular work routine.  Until that time, I continued pumping milk regularly and storing it.

There was even a time when I had to attend a conference in Cebu and I continued with my routine, going to my hotel room in the middle of the day to pump milk and storing it in the mini-bar's freezer.  I bought a thermal bag just so I could hand carry the frozen breast milk.  I had to explain to the airport inspectors what it was so they could allow me to bring it.  I stored it in disposable ziplock bags that were made especially to store milk.

When Rocky came, I did not waver in my choice of breastfeeding him.  On Day 2 after his birth, I was already at the Nursery breast feeding him.  I did not have to go through the difficult time of regularly pumping nothing.  My milk flowed immediately after a few seconds of Rocky's latching.

To me, breastfeeding is a no-brainer choice.  I believe its for everyone who wants the best for her baby.  If there is anything I want to share to others who want to breastfeed their child it will be the following:

1.  Everything starts with a conscious decision to breastfeed your baby.  With that decision, one should start to research and read the literature.  I know it is natural for a mom to feed her baby, but the literature, the testimonies will make you become more open to the experience and make you realize that there are difficulties that can be overcome.

2.  It is not required but truly a wonderful bonus if your husband is supportive of your desire to breast feed.  During the first few attempts of pumping out milk and nothing was coming out, it was my husband who accompanied me in those frustrating moments.  It had to be him because it was only with him that I was comfortable showing my mammary glands.  I don't think I would have been comfortable even with my own mother.  He also was up with me in those late nights and early mornings when I had to pump milk and my baby was still in the Neo-natal Intensive Care Unit (NICU).  He continued to give me support even with Rocky, my second baby.

3.  Don't give up.  The first few attempts will frustrate you, specially if you are a first time mom.  Just don't give up.  Take moringa capsules to stimulate your milk glands if needed.  Drink a lot of milk and eat a lot of soupy food.  My favorite was "tinola" (local chicken soup).  Help yourself to produce the milk that you need.

4.  Breast feeding is practical.  I have to admit that the reason why I breastfed Rocky longer than Nico (Rocky breastfed until his 7th month, Nico only up to 4 months), was the high cost of infant formula.  At around Rocky's fifth month, Mon and I decided to mix feed Rocky in preparation to feeding him soft food for his 6th month.  Mon was in charge of buying the formula.  Once, I had to buy it because the milk was about to run out and he was still at work, I was so shocked that a can of powdered formula was P1,200 - P1,600.  This was just preposterous.  We did not spend much for formula because when Rocky turned 6 months, he preferred soft food.  So between baby food and my breast milk, there was little room for the formula milk.  Stage 2 baby formula though is a lot cheaper than newborn infant formula.  So, now we are feeding him soft baby foods with Stage 2 formula (Nan Two).

5.  Breastfeeding also is a major way to lose weight after giving birth.  I was 73 kilos the week I gave birth to Rocky.  Two weeks after that, when I went to my OB for my regular check up, I was only 63 kilos.  10 kilos lost in the first week alone which I attribute to breastfeeding.  Now, I am only 60 kilos.  Rocky is now on his 10th month.

6.  Finally, it truly helps if you have faith in God and you pray a lot.  I did pray a lot during the frustrating times when milk would not come.  I truly believed and trusted that this miracle of sustenance will be provided for me and my sons.  So, I never doubted that I will have milk for my boys.

So, to all of you who are still choosing between breast milk and formula for your baby, choose breast milk.  It is good for your baby and also good for you.

Friday, August 12, 2011

Gifts

It has been seven months since I last posted.  Time for an update.

The last time i posted, I was very pregnant.  Last March, I gave birth to a healthy baby boy we named Ramon Felix.  We call him Rocky -- yes, after the Sylvester Stallone character.  Fortunately, everything went on as planned and the birth did not have any hitches.  Thanks to my UNEP Family's prayers.  It truly helped a lot.  Plus, I had an altar of St. Therese and Our Lady of Mount Carmel in my hospital room.  My faith made me confident in what I was going to go through.

Now, Rocky is on his fourth month and doing very well.


I still breastfeed him and I still expect to do so until he's 6 months old.  My adventure into breastfeeding will be the subject of another post.

Since my baby's birth I have taken my scrapbooking more seriously.  I have started investing in classes, tools, papers and embellishments.  I enjoy the creative process.  I love the feeling of a finished layout.  See some of my works  here,

Going back to work after two months of leave when I was going to give birth was a blessing.  I was just veging out and needed the structure of work.  Now, I'm back to my hectic schedule.

Of course I am thankful for the simple celebration of my 35th birthday last June which coincided with our first day of Retreat at Caritas Mariae Retreat House, Naga City.  We had a mass and the celebration was very simple.




I am truly thankful for another year over and another year added to my age.  Fortunately -- my UNEP Family failed to put my age on the cake.  I would not have minded if it was there.  Age is just a number.

Connected to this birthday -- although a month has passed -- is a nice surprise. I have been wanting to buy a Kindle for months now, but have been postponing it as Amazon does not ship to the Philippines.  Last June, my cousin Nicole arrived from the States with a Kindle.  I saw how convenient it was and being a voracious bookworm, it was a very convenient gadget and provided access to books that were otherwise difficult to find here in the province.  So, when another cousin went to the States, I gave her my debit card with the intention of asking her to buy me a Kindle.

But my Aunt is more generous than my debit card -- she bought the Kindle and gave it to me as a gift for my birthday -- a month after.  That was a wonderful surprise.  She also bought me the Targus Leather Case that I can set it up with the Kindle standing up (see picture below).  I loooooove my Kindle.




Yup, I still have the protective film on the front -- so Pinoy!!!  It will stay until it falls off or until I get to buy a more appropriate protective film for the screen -- although honestly -- it doesn't need one, I just want to take care of my things.

So many gifts to thank for, Baby Rocky, a budding hero -- eldest son Nico (this needs a separate post), a supportive husband, a talent rediscovered, a meaningful birthday, a generous Aunt, all these and more -- and truly I am grateful.  Admittedly, life has not been very good lately, but I am glad for little things that make God's presence felt in my life. 

Thankful always,

Peachy :-)

Wednesday, January 05, 2011

Welcome 2011!

Ramon with Nico at Pines View Hotel 
Another year over and another year has just begun, so the song says.

And... as much as things change the more they stay the same.  As we look forward and deal with a lot of things that has not changed through the years, we continue to hope that maybe this year is a better year than last year.

Personally, I have so many things to be thankful for and look forward to this year.  I am pregnant again.  And again, its a boy.  We have been hoping for a girl but I think a boy is a blessing just the same.  The practical in me is thankful that at least I don't have to buy a new set of everything for the newcomer if it would be a girl.  Since he's a boy, he can use Nico's things, hand me downs. I am very excited to see him, Mon even has a name for him already.  This time baby boy will share his first name.  He's arriving in April.

I am also looking forward to a better year in my career.  Why not?  I have already set my priorities and
UNEP has been reaping many awards left and right with the grace of God.  I also have a new job as Dean of the UNEP College of Law.  We will work on our blessings and ensure that we add to our blessings.

The greatest blessing though is that after last year, our family has gotten closer.  The adversities we experience together made us all better persons.  And, I am not talking only of my immediate family, but also the entire clan.  Somehow,we learned how to deal with each other and find our place in the sun but still with the same love and affection for each other and even better understanding of each other.

2011 is going to be a great year, I just know it in my heart.  Here's to a great new year to everyone!

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Travelling Light

At around the second week of June, I got word that I am supposed to leave for the United States to attend the 1st International Grand Alumni Homecoming of UNEP/MMC Graduatates in Chicago at around the last week of July.

It has been around six years when I last had a MAJOR international travel.  That was to an International Law Conference in Berlin which included a trip to Weisbaden to visit a friend in which she was able to squeeze in a weekend motorcoach tour to Paris.  My 2007 trip to KL, Malaysia does not count because it was only for a few days to attend another conference, the Rotary Zone Institute and I did not need a visa for the trip.

My first concern whenever I decide to take such trips, whether local or international, is what to bring.  In 2004, when I went to Germany, I had a large "maleta" (luggage), that was as high as my waist, a carry-on luggage that was actually an overnight bag and of course, my larger than usual handbag.  It was crazy and difficult to travel especially at the last part of my Germany tour.  I had to take the ICE (or TGV - I don't remember now), from Berlin to Weisbaden alone.  I was struggling with my big maleta that a co-passenger joked that he hoped there were no dead bodies inside coz it was so heavy even for him (he helped me after seeing me struggle).

The thing is, I thought my luggage was already streamlined.  In 2004, I surfed the net for tips and ideas on how to travel light and yet, was still lugging around about 70 lbs of luggage.

Now, I am travelling solo again, international.  So, I started surfing the net again for new ideas. I had good reason to do so, because my packing list is now longer than when I started to adopt it in 2004 from the website onebag.com.  It is nice to know that the old classics are still up and running.  http://www.travelite.org/ is still up along with http://www.onebag.com/ and the Universal Packing List (http://upl.codeq.info/). 

The advice I get from these websites are truly a great help specially for me because I travel a lot locally.  I maintain a toiltetry bag which I replenish every month and keep several no-wrinkle clothes.  Here are some of my advice to add to the plethora of knowledge on the matter:

1.  If you travel a lot, it is wise to maintain an overnight bag with the basics: a toiletry bag, a first-aid kit, a t-shirt, pants, slippers (flip-flops), underwear (1 bra, 3 panties).  I also include basic ladies accessories in my bag like a string of faux pearl necklace and earrings (people don't care if its real or not).  If I have no time to pack, I just take the bag and go.  If I need to wear something fancy or dressy and I was not able to pack something of that caliber, I just buy when I reach my destination.

2.  When I travel, I always check in my maleta (luggage or overnight bag) and have with me my carry-on.  My carry on always have one pair of underwear, a t-shirt and a boxer shorts.  This saved me when my connecting flight from Berlin to Amsterdam was late and I had to be booked by my airline in a hotel overnight to catch the next flight to Manila.  The airline only gave me (and the rest of the group who was delayed) a 7 Euro gift check for toiletries.  It was a fortunate that I brought an extra shirt so I would be fresh for next day's flight.  I forgot, we were also given a phone card that we can use to call home for five minutes only.  I used it to call my Dad that I was going to be delayed.

3.  Always follow the rules.  It is difficult to talk to people to beg them to make you an exception.  If they say you have to be at the airport 3 hours before departure, do so.  Its alright to wait, as long as you are waiting at the boarding gate and not in a taxi stuck in traffic somewhere and your plane will leave in 30 minutes.  This is universal.  Even in the Philippines, when the gate is closed, it remains closed.  There is so much hassle.  So, just follow the rules to make your trip stress free.  One time, I had to shell out more than the amount I paid for my ticket just to get on the next flight that I missed due to traffic. 

4.  Always bring basic medicine like paracetamol, immodium, etc...  You will never know when you will need it.  I alwasy do bring home remedy stuff. 

Thats my take on travelling light.  He who travels light, is a happy traveller.

1st UNEP International Alumni Homecoming in Chicago, Illinois, USA

The University of Northeastern Philippines will be having its 1st International Grand Alumnni Homecoming at the Sheraton Gateway Suites in Chicago O'Hare on July 30, 31 and August 1, 2010.

For Reservations, please call (847) 699-6300. You can also visit their personalized website at http://www.starwoodmeeting.com/Book/UNEPCN.

This event was organized under the initiative of the UNEP International College of Nursing Alumni Association.

Please contact the following for further details:
LUZ AND DANNY DELA ROSA (630) 863-7904; danluz1955@hotmail.com

EUNICE AND REMU DE LEON, JR. (630) 378-5301; rdeleon327@hotmail.com

SHIRLEY AND JOE MADAYAG (630) 985-7583; smadayag@comcast.net

MARILYN AND CARY DELAS LLAGAS (510) 352-4152; m_delasllagas@sbcglobal.net

YOLLY AND VIC MAGISTRADO (718) 881-3159; vicandyolly@aol.com

EDEN AND ED REGALA (818) 845-1381; edenregala06@aol.com



The Homecoming features the following events:

1. UNEP College of Nursing Pre-Class Reunion 2011

2. UNEP Fund Raising for the University Alumni Hall

3. UNEP College of Nursing Fund Raising for on-going scholarship grants

4. 16th Wedding Anniversary Celebration for Former Dean of College of Nursing Dr. Ofelia Cruz Pascual and Atty. Patrick Pascual

5. Friday Night Welcome Party

6. Saturday, Grand Dinner and Ball/ Lotter Ticket Drawings

First Prize: (2) Free Round Trip Tickets from US-Manila

Second Prize: (2) Free Round Trip Tickets from Hong Kong-Manila

Third Prize: (2) Free Round Trip Tickets from any city in the US

Five Consolation Prizes: $100.00 for each winning ticket


7. Cash Bonanza:

Sell 5 booklets of raffle tickets you will receive a $50.00 incentive.

Sell 10 booklets of raffle tickets you will receive a $100.00 incentive.


8. Recognition awards for Outstanding UNEP Alumni


9. Sunday, Thanksgiving Mass/Free Grand Outdoor Picnic


ALL GRADUATES OF THE UNIVERSITY OF NORTHEASTERN PHILIPPINES, MABINI MEMORIAL COLLEGES, MABINI MEMORIAL SCHOOL FROM KINDER, ELEMENTARY, HIGHSCHOOL, COLLEGE AND POST-GRADUATES ARE INVITED TO JOIN US.

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Great News!

Today I received great news.

Last Saturday, I took the Ateneo Graduate School of Business Entrance Examination.

About a year and a half ago, I had been contemplating on taking up graduate studies, but could not decide what program to take (MAEd or MBA or Master of Laws), or where I would take it (UP, Ateneo or La Salle or even abroad).

This contemplation came about when CHED and PACU-COA started to crackdown on schools which allows non-masteral graduates to teach college courses. Although my Ll.B. is considered as a post-graduate degree for purposes of teaching college, still I felt that if I want to start cracking down on my non-masteral graduate faculty I have to walk the talk and take up post-graduate studies myself.

This brought me to Ateneo-Rockwell last Saturday. I was not all together prepared. I read some books, reviewed a little on my math using some GMAT and GRE Reviewers that I had with me for the last three years. So, although I was not really nervous, I felt that I needed more time to study if I wanted to pass the exams. As usual, what I lacked in preparation I submitted to the Lord and prayed for guidance and wisdom.

I started checking the website for the results since Monday. Luckily this morning, when I checked, it said "Congratulations!", and that I have been accepted for the program I applied for.

I immediately felt so thankful and so relieved that I passed the exams. I was already contemplating on my next move if I don't get in. But then, it seems I am destined to be an atenean after decades of trying avoid sectarian schools after my U.P. undergrad education.

Right now, I am looking forward to going back to school and sharpening both my theoretical and experiential learnings.

Wish me luck in this next chapter of my journey.

For those who are interested to take the journey with me this is the link to the Ateneo Graduate School of Business Ateneo Graduate School of Business.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

BAR EXAM SEASON

The University of Northeastern Philippines - College of Law have just received a packet of documents from the Office of the Bar Confidant, Supreme Court of the Philippines. For me, this is the start of the Bar Exam Season.

I was the one who received it considering that I am now the Acting Dean of the UNEP-College of Law. Its former Dean for decades now, Dean Mariano Baranda has already retired upon reaching the obligatory age and decided to enjoy the rest of his fruitful years.

The packet includes the Requirements for the Bar Examinations for New Applicants and Guidelines for the 2010 Bar Examinations. It also includes statistical data on the passing percentages of ALL law schools in the Philippines.

The National Passing Percentage for the 2009 Bar Examinations was 24.58%. Out of 5,903 takers, only 1,451 passed. It is interesting to note that 68,78% or 998 of the passers were first takers, while only 453 passers or 31.22% were repeaters. This is despite the fact that out of the 5,903 takers, 3,005 or 50.91% were repeaters, almost half of the takers.

I think this is a warning to repeaters. Only 15% of the repeaters passed. I am not saying that they have to give up their dream of becoming lawyers, especially that I am a one-take passer. That would be too arrogant of me. What I am saying is that, repeaters should assess themselves before they embark on this strenuous journey of taking the bar again.

Questions on how I passed the bar hound me everytime I meet law students who are really interested to pass. I always tell them that the matter of passing is always different for each person. The key is to KNOW YOURSELF.

Recently, my husband's fraternity brother passed the bar on his third take. I asked him how did he do it this time. He said he really made time and prepared for it even more than he did the last time. He resigned from his job, asked his siblings to support him in this endeavor. He even lived in a dorm inside the campus of the law school where he took his refresher to get all his efforts focused on his bar review.

He arrived at his plan upon honestly assessing himself and accepting his weaknesses. In the previous exams, he was working while he reviewed. He also spent more time drinking and cavorting with his brods and airsoft friends than studying. You see, this guy is quite intelligent and felt he had been studying the law for more than five years and thought he can wing it. But, if you do not give time to preparing for the exams, it won't give you time also.

As we start another season of preparation and study for the Bar Exams 2010, I pray that all who endeavor to hurdle this exam do so without much pain and obstacles. Good luck to you all!

Tuesday, June 01, 2010

A New Day

Today is the first day of my birth month.

It has been hot in the dragon's lair -- too hot even for a dragon -- literally and figuratively. But what makes a person like me prevail is my faith in God, my faith in myself and my faith in my intentions.

Due to my recent endeavors I had set aside a lot of career concerns and right now, I have so many things in my mind, what if things, where to go from here things, moving on things -- generally what to do with my life things.

When I decided to move here in the province, I had so much hope. After seven years, I feel tired and just completely burned out. I really need a boost.

The only thing that drives me now is my little boy Nico, and my supportive husband Ramon. I only have to look at my little boy and like coffee, I am spurred to action. What action? Whatever needs to be done.

But, I do not work like this. I need a plan. I used to be so confident about my skills of having Plan Bs. Failure never really faves me. I have always seen it as a phase. "This too shall pass", ika nga sa movie na My Best Friend's Wedding.

But now it seems I am stuck in a rut.

I have to bounce back. Like Roo -- bounce, bounce, bounce.

Right now, my most major contemplation is going back to school. I am planning of taking my MBA in ADMU. I hope it works. I still need to pass the entrance exam etc... etc... But, it is something to look forward to and something that I really need for my career.

Been planning this for years now but I never really got around to doing it. Maybe this time, I can work on it and be successful.

I have also many things to work on, the BFHE Conference where I am the Conference Director and the preparation of our programs in the University which is up for accreditation. So, all is not lost. I hope things work out better for me.

What is important is to keep the faith and not lose hope. As our country embarks on a new chapter, we hope to become a better nation and become better people.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

A New Advocacy

These past few days, I have been very busy working on an easy to understand module for voter's education aimed at voters 45 and up. I have been scouring the net for available material for this newfound advocacy. But, despite the tons of information I got, the best video I got was in English. The one in filipino is a segment in a t.v. program, but it's not comprehensive enough and might even confuse the voter. The one which I got from the COMELEC website includes portions for the BEI. The viewer/voter often asks me "Ma'am, kailangan pa pala kaming mag-pindot ng pin bago makaboto?" and "Ma'am saan po nakukuha ang pin?" after I show them the video.

So, I totally dropped the video. I show them the Quick Guide Video from YouTube instead and just explain what is happening in the video in Bicol dialect because the video is again in English.

Anyway, today, I came up with a one-page guide which I distributed in a voter's ed seminar I conducted in Goa, Cam. Sur. It's in Filipino but I will have it translated in Bicolano later. Some people advice to make it into a comics. We'll see. Please post your comments and suggestions.



PARAAN NG PAGBOTO

A. MGA IMPORTANTENG IMPORMASYONG DAPAT TANDAAN:

a. ANG BOTOHAN AY SA MAY 10, 2010, LUNES

b. ANG ORAS NG BOTOHAN AY 7:00AM HANGGANG 6:00PM

c. MAGHANDA SA MAHABANG PILA. ANG BAWAT MAKINA AY NAKAKATANGGAP NG HANGGANG 1,000 NA BOTANTE KAYA’T MAHALAGA NA PUMUNTA SA BOTOHAN NA NAKAKAIN NA NG ALMUSAL O PANANGHALIAN.

B. MGA DAPAT ALAMIN BAGO MAGBOTOHAN

a. SAANG POLLING CENTER KAYO BOBOTO?

b. ANO ANG PRESINTO NA IYONG KINABIBILANGAN?

c. SINO ANG INYONG IBOBOTO PARA MAKAGAWA NA KAYO NG LISTAHAN.

C. MGA DAPAT DALHIN BAGO MAGBOTO

a. ISANG I.D. NA MAGPAPATUNAY NA KAYO NGA ANG TAONG NASA LISTAHAN.

b. SAMPLE BALLOT OR LISTAHAN NG MGA KANDIDATONG INYONG IBOBOTO

D. ANG PROSESO NG PAGBOTO

a. PUMUNTA SA POLLING CENTER O PRESINTO NA INYONG KINABIBILANGAN

b. LAPITAN ANG BOARD OF ELECTION INSPECTORS (BEI) PARA IPAKITA ANG INYONG I.D. AT SUMUNOD SA MGA INUUTOS NG BEI

c. TANGGAPIN ANG BALOTA NA IBIBIGAY NG BEI

d. BUMOTO

i. ITIMAN ANG BILOG NA HUGIS ITLOG KATABI NG PANGALAN NG KANDIDATONG INYONG IBOBOTO

ii. HUWAG SUMOBRA NG BOTO SA HINIHINGI NG POSISYON. KUNG SOBRA ITO, HINDI MABIBILANG ANG INYONG BOTO SA POSISYON NA SOBRA ANG BOTO NINYO.

iii. HUWAG SULATAN O MAGLAGAY NG ANO MANG MARKA SA BALOTA

iv. TANDAAN NA ANG BALOTA AY BACK-TO-BACK.

v. TANDAAN NA HINDI NA MAAARING HUMINGI NG PANIBAGONG BALOTA KUNG KAYO AY MAGKAMALI KAYA'T DAPAT SIGURADUHING MAAYOS ANG PAGBOTO SA BALOTA.

e. PAGKATAPOS BUMOTO, PUMUNTA SA COUNTING MACHINE AT ISALANG NG DAHAN-DAHAN ANG BALOTA

f. SIGURADUHIN NA UMAKYAT NG ISANG NUMERO ANG NUMERO NA MAKIKITA SA MAKINA

g. MAKAKAKITA NG MGA SALITANG “THANK YOU FOR VOTING” KUNG TAPOS NA ANG MAKINA SA PAGTANGGAP NG IYONG BALOTA.

h. BUMALIK SA BEI UPANG MAGPALAGAY NG INDELIBLE INK O TINTA SA DALIRI.

(ANG DOKUMENTONG ITO AY ISANG PROYEKTO NG UNIVERSITY OF NORTHEASTERN PHILIPPINES-COMMITTEE ON RESPONSIBLE VOTING)

Monday, November 09, 2009

Weekend Change

When I started this blog, I promised myself I won’t be using it in politics. Rather, I wanted it to be as far from this aspect of my life as I can. Maybe, I just wanted to prove to myself that I can live a life away from the mob so to speak, in my own little world. But what I am about to share now is so big, I really cannot help but blog about it.

As a lot of those who check out my blog know, my father is running for Governor of the Province of Camarines Sur, yes – against that wakeboardin’ dude – self-proclaimed John Lloyd Cruz look-alike (its really making me retch as I write this…) – L-Ray Villafuerte.

Admittedly, it is an uphill climb for my Dad, our family and our supporters. I had so many doubts when my Dad started exploring this path after the end of his three year term as Congressman started looming in the horizon. There were so many objections and oppositions from within and without, especially since his major supporter in this endeavour was someone the family does not trust.

I prayed and prayed because things are just so confusing. I wanted God to do his work and clear out the dust and show us the truth and what we are supposed to do.

As expected, with much faith, the answer came in the last three days of last week. The major supporter finally shed his chameleon clothes and showed his true self. Blood is thicker than water after all. People indeed can change their minds according to what is convenient to them. Principles can be compromised despite of all the people that will be affected.

Our family braced for the expected. It was my Dad’s birthday last Saturday and despite preparing for a thousand people, we were afraid that the people we were expecting to arrive might not come. But God is good – coz they did, amazingly despite coming from far away places. They pledged their support for my Dad. It was a good feeling seeing all these people come and tell my Dad “Sir, walang iwanan!”

Nakakataba ng puso and my heart is only so full of gratitude. At this point, if we lose, the fact that the people of Camarines Sur has seen how wily this political family is, and their supporters have also felt how little this family think of them, we have already served our purpose.

Now, we are still with the administration, as my Dad had been since 2001. He is supporting Gibo Teodoro and it will stay that way. Clear, clean, transparent. No more, no less. That is who my Dad is. That is how our family is.

Friday, October 09, 2009

PRISAA or First PRISA

Today is a great surprise!

I attended a meeting of the Bicol Foundation on Higher Education (BFHE) this afternoon. We hosted the meeting again of this organization of higher education institutions in the Bicol Region. Being a quarterly meeting of the organization it was attended by the officers and board of directors only.

Our agenda list was long. The BFHE is the Regional Association on Higher Education Institutions of the RAHEI of the Bicol Region and being such, we discussed how we will go about with the CHED directed Academic and Cultural Competitions related to the CHED National Games. In a nutshell, if SCUAA, LCUAA, and PRISAA is now going to join together for the CHED National Games (unified!), the RAHEIs and the NAHEIs are in charge of the academic and cultural competition portion of the games.

The discussion regarding Bicol Region's participation was quite long so I will not bore anyone reading this with the details, but something really blew me away.

Apparently, the PRISAA national organization has transformed itself into a party-list organization calling itself First PRISA. I don't know how this happened. A lot of things are still fuzzy. But suffice it to say, that whatever is happening, the guys behind First PRISA are using the PRISAA organization to build a network of members throughout the country. Remember that it is part of COMELEC accreditation requirements that a party-list organization have nationwide membership and representation to be classified as such.

Although it seems clear that PRISAA is a different entity from First PRISA, there is no doubt that the people they have listed as their regional representatives are the same regional presidents of the local PRISAA. This is weird and crazy especially for us PRISAA member schools who were never informed of this development.

Honestly, as a President of a University, and a paying member of PRISAA, I cannot help but think about the possibility of First PRISA using PRISAA funds to further their cause without the consent of its general membership.

Right now, we -- along with several other member schools -- are thinking of withdrawing our membership from PRISAA, lest we be used for the political interest of others without our knowledge or consent.

Actually, what I really feel so bad about is how this exhibits how the PRISAA National Officers see their members. They see us as minions rather than equals or partners to attain the goals of PRISAA.

I will blog some more about this as soon as I get more information. But, still this thing stinks like after-flood garbage in Marikina.

Friday, July 31, 2009

Hopeful

Last week, I was informed that Col. Tomasito Clet, the COP of Iriga City for several years now was transferred to Naga City.

I felt mixed emotions. I felt really sad that Col. Clet left our beloved Iriga. He really made such great difference in our City with his team up with our Mayor Madel A. Gazmen. Crime in Iriga is almost zero and during Col. Clet's tenure he was able to make important and substantial drug busts that paralyzed, if not completely eradicated the proliferation of drugs in our City.

In a way, I also feel HOPEFUL, because at last Naga City will have a Chief of Police that is known for his integrity and being an action man. He is a man of results, and is very humble. I think he came to Naga just in time.

You see, about a month ago, there was an attempted break-in and robbery at my store in General Luna Street, just a stone's throw away from the Naga City Police Headquarters.

We had break-ins before, but they just got a cd player worth about P3,000.00 and about P1,000.00 in cash. It was in 2006. My stay-in tinderas reported to me that sometimes, they would hear someone attempting to break-in the store but since my husband installed three door locks those who attempted to do so -- with my tinderas in the store were not successful.

Fast forward to about a month ago... my husband was woken up at about 3:00AM by a call from our Store Manager. She told him that someone tried to break in the store. The small door (service entrance) of the store was destroyed save for a lock at the top of the door that kept it to the doorjamb. Apparently, the man attempting to break-in used a crowbar to destroy the door.

What was really scary was the fact that I have two tinderas who sleep in the store. One tindera was in shock and just stayed in a corner. My other tindera got a knife and attempted to hit the hand of the robber everytime it tries to hold the door and push it. In fact, my tindera claims that he was able to hit the man's hand several times and was sure that it must have left a wound. So what does this mean? The man knows there are people inside the store yet he insisted to break-in. I was sure that if he was successful, he will kill my tinderas.

It was a good thing that my store manager was just living in a boarding house near the store. My tinderas called her up at the start when they heard that someone was trying to knockdown the door. My store manager immediately dropped by the station before proceeding to the store. When the police and my manager arrived the roober was nowhere to be found. Apparently, he left when a police mobile left the station just before the police and my manager arrived at the store.

I am just so disappointed that Naga City, which has been lauded by several award giving bodies for good governance and being the best... a world-class city, cannot even solve the criminality proliferating in the urban center. That whole lane of laundry shops, ukay-ukay stores, beauty salons along general luna st., near Barlin St., very, very near --- literally a stones throw away from the Naga City Police Headquarters have been plagued by robbers, thieves, holdapers and other criminals for years now. Aside from our store, the Tad's Laundry Shop was also broken in last month, for the second time ha! Even the Menasec Drugstore which is within the compound of the police station was robbed. I mean... is this world-class? Utang na loob naman!

Last SONA, the economist Solita Monsod said of GMA's speech, that it is true that the economy of the Philippines is doing good but it is regrettable that the Filipino poor does not feel the benefits of this good economy.

Like Naga, it might be true that Jessie Robredo is the best Mayor the City of Naga will ever have with great governance policies, but it is regrettable that a simple problem like peace and order cannot be solved.

I dream of a day when I can once again walk the streets of Naga without being afraid that my bag or my celphone will be snatched away from me or no longer see elementary school age kids sniffing rugby at the Barlin Statue, right in front of the Naga City Police Station. I am always HOPEFUL.

Saturday, July 18, 2009

A New Project

My Dad and Mom has a house in Bonifacio Village, Quezon City. My parents allowed me and my family to live in the house whenever we are in Manila.

Recently, when we got back the house from unscrupulous caretakers -- this one deserves another post -- my husband and I decided that we cannot continue to use the house without making the necessary maintenance repairs. Our previous caretakers left the house damaged, not to mentioned robbed. We had to fix the electricals and the plumbing. The roof was leaking and the gutters busted.

But as we started planning our repairs, we thought, why not start a small business with it. Since we have always been sending students to Manila for their OJT and they had to pay exhorbitant fees for their accomodations, why not fix the house to accomodate about 15 to 20 people and have our students stay in the house for a cheaper fee. My husband liked the idea so we immediately told my Dad who was very supportive of the project.

Now, we are well on the way of the repairs. We have transformed the lanai at the back portion of the house into a big hall that can have 5 bunk beds. The two rooms we have we have also repaired. I am really excited but I know it is still a long way to having the house accept its first guests.

Aside from the OJT students, we can also have the house for rent for families who are staying in Manila to fetch a balikbayan relative or for families who are in Manila to attend an event like a wedding or a birthday.

I just hope I am on the right track. Keep your fingers crossed. I will keep you all posted.

PS: The rates are P500.00 per person per night. It includes breakfast and one set of toiletries. Kabayan charges similar fees but without toiletries and no towel. We will start hopefully by September. For interested parties please just comment on this post and leave your email. I will contact you.

Saturday, June 27, 2009

TURNING 33

This post was written last June 21, 2009.

Tomorrow, June 22, 2009, I will be turning 33 years old.

I had always dreaded this age.

I was always told that great men and women die at 33 years old.
Alexander the Great died at 33 after conquering the world.
Jesus Christ died at 33 after preaching the Gospel.

I am 33.

I am not afraid of death. I think I am prepared for it.

What I am afraid of is dying when I have not accomplished anything yet.

A long stay in Manila made me think about my life and I decided to make an inventory of everything that I have done in my 33 years of living, but that was difficult.

How can I define my achievements as my own?

I decided instead to just take stock of what I have learned in my 33 years of life.

1. In whatever you do, always ask for God’s guidance. I have never achieved anything without approval from above. Everything I have, I asked first from God through prayers. Sometimes I am confident, sometimes not… but what is important is that as you pray you also work for the fulfilment of your requests.

2. In everything you do, there is no substitute for great preparation. May it be as simple as brushing your teeth or as difficult as taking the Bar Exams for Lawyers. It always pays to have prepared for anything you do. Remember what they said about luck… luck is nothing but the meeting of good preparation with great opportunity.

3. It is always important to have a vision. Having a vision will enable you to be grounded and focused on your daily tasks and makes you do it properly and excellently. People who have no vision and therefore no focus tend to be more “kalat” in their thinking. I am not an organized person. But, in my few accomplishments in life, I have learned that having a vision of your end goal is a big key to success. And I do mean vision, imagine yourself in the ideal situation that you want.

For example, when I took the Bar, I imagined myself during the first Sunday of the Bar. I do not want to be nervous, so I knew I had to study well. I did not want small irritants like health concerns to bug me so I prepared my Backpack for D-Day to include every conceivable solution for any mishap (vomiting, headache, tummy ache, hunger, period, etc…) That is why I had such a big backpack on the day of the exam, as if I was going to climb Mt. Everest.

The same thing happened when I got pregnant. I played the day that I will give birth, a thousand times in my mind thinking about what I need, who I need to call, what to do, etc… I was able to give birth with the least of worries. I was previously so afraid to give birth, but thinking about it in my mind helped to psyche myself for the Big Day.

4. Always, always be humble. It pays to remember that you are but an actor in this play called life. Do not assume that the world revolves around you. It is wrong… wrong… wrong… Even if it seems true or you feel that it is true. Don’t believe it. People around you have lives of their own, families of their own, their own dreams to fulfil. You are not the messiah. Even if you helped every person in the world, it does not make them less of a person than you are that enables you to control them. They are people in their own right.

5. Be grateful. It always helps to thank people who helped you in your everyday life. If you are grateful, you also become humble. However, if you helped people, don’t expect them to give back. If they do, then thank them, if not, just let it go. They have no responsibility to give back especially if the help they received was voluntary. Just let it go. It is okay for other people to be ungrateful, as long as it is not you. Kaya kung hindi naman bukal sa loob mong tumulong, huwag ka na tumulong, sasama lang ang loob mo kung di man lang nagpasalamat ang tinulungan mo. If you want to help, just help.

6. Respect other people. When you respect other people, you become more emphathetic, more humane and become more caring and compassionate. When you respect them, they will respect you also. I do not only mean respecting your parents, or your boss. I mean respecting their things, privacy, their space, especially their lives. If you respect other people, they will leave you alone. Remember, respect is the key to tolerance and tolerance begets peace.

7. When you arrive at problems, always think… is this really my problem or someone elses? If it is someone else’s, you are not compelled to solve it. Sometimes, people have the tendency to displace their problems and limitations on other people and it becomes our own. It burdens us and makes us less of who we are. I am an eldest daughter. I went through life always thinking about my brothers, my family and all their concerns. So Filipino! But, then, I realized, are my concern about them really “my concerns” or am I just treating my whole family like a baby and making them dependent upon me? I realized, I had to start teaching my siblings to decide on their own and not make them so dependent on me. I realized I had to teach them to solve their own problems. In Filipino: “Huwag mo problemahin ang hindi mo naman problema.”

8. The last one that I always practice daily without fail is: if it doesn’t kill you, just let it slide. As we go along our daily lives, people will hurt us and make us feel lesser than who we are. Other people react to these irritants, but for me, as long as it does not create damage that will kill me, my family or my reputation, I just let it go. If it is constructive, I welcome it, but if purely designed to destroy my work and my reputation, I just let it be. I am confident in my work. I let it speak for me. If some people would decide to malign me, then go ahead. My next successful work will speak for me. This gives me peace of mind and allows me to focus on my work and being in the service of my fellowmen. I will always remember a saying I once read somewhere, “if people speak ill of you, then live in a manner that no one will believe them.”

So far, that’s it. Eight important lessons. Actually, I would suggest you also listen to “Sunscreen” by Baz Luhrmann. When my husband and I first heard it during the late 90s and early 2000s, we tried to follow every advice. It was really a treasure. I hope you do listen to it. Just google it.

In about 36 minutes, I will turn 33 years old. Happy. Contented. Living the life I wanted. And I only have God to thank for this meaningful life.

Thank you.

OF DEVOTION AND PARADES

OF DEVOTION AND PARADES
By: Atty. Remelisa G. Alfelor-Moraleda
University President
University of Northeastern Philippines
Iriga City

Last June 22, 2009, which was incidentally my birthday, the Bicol Association of Catholic Schools (BACS) came out with a statement saying that, after reflecting on the issue, they decided that all their member-institutions will no longer participate in this year’s Penafrancia Fiesta Military Parade Competition.

I have to say that this did not surprise me at all. I have been getting varied reactions from most of these Catholic schools regarding the said Competition in the past years and I believe that it is about time that they came out with a statement that reverberated to every corner of the Bicol Region, and commenced the debate raging now about the separation of the church and the state.

The University of Northeastern Philippines (UNEP) already arrived at the same decision way back academic year 2007-2008. We don’t have to elaborate on the circumstances on why or how we were able to reach this decision. However, in this article, I will instead outline on how a school, sectarian or otherwise, may be able to discern their position on this matter.

Our University has joined this event for many years already since the 1980s. In fact, our contingent has always been one of the most awaited features of the Parade. Observers, devotees and guests from everywhere in the Bicol Region lauded our participation, whether we brought home the bacon or not. And why not? The University has always given its all in providing the best performance in this competition.

For years, we have always participated with a passion of a Manny Pacquiao training for his next boxing bout. We had always taken this competition seriously. Getting the best trainors, reasonably spending as much as we can, confident that our preparation is enough to come out with a performance that is worthy of our reputation.

However, as in any endeavor, one comes to a point where one re-examines why we participate in an event that seems to have already paled in meaning. We carefully deliberated on our reasons why we should participate and tested it against our reasons why we should not.

Regrettably, we arrived at a decision that announced to us that there is no relevant purpose anymore in continuing to participate in this event.

How did we arrive at this conclusion?

1. The first argument that is always used by the organizers of this event is that the Penafrancia Military Parade Competition is an expression of our devotion to Our Lady of Penafrancia. We can not argue with this statement. An expression of devotion is relative to the person who is expressing that devotion. It is subjective and is not capable of an objective examination. However, is it not a better expression to participate instead in the Translacion which is a truly religious activity? This is the time allotted by the Church to focus on the devotion to Ina and the start of her 9-day Novena. Ina is the star of this show and as a University that encourages such a devotion, this is a better way to drive the point rather than let them participate in a Military Parade and off-tangently hope that they drop by the Church also on their own.

The University has already done this in the past several years. We have organized our students to participate in the Translacion with great success. After the activity, we encourage their teachers to discuss their experience in class and truly this has been a more effective way than attending the Military Parade, which to our mind just grazes the target of providing avenues of expression of our devotion to Ina.

2. There is also the argument that the Penafrancia Military Parade is an effective medium to market and promote our school. Actually, we have anchored our involvement in the competition in this argument, every year, to justify our participation. We have studied this as part of drafting the marketing plan for our school, however, we found out that it is more cost effective to do our marketing more directly through ads in tri-media. We have implemented this and true to our study, statistics show that advertising in tri-media is more effective than participating in this event. Definitely, this argument does not hold water.

3. It has also been argued that the Penafrancia Military Parade Competition promotes inter-school camaraderie. To be honest about it, there is no inter-school camaraderie that happens among student-participants. The students are trained to be focused on the competition and do not have time to interact with student-participants of other schools. Besides, this is more effectively fulfilled by other activities such as participation in the PRISAA, Tertiary and Secondary Schools Press Conference Competition and other academic and related activities, not in the Penafrancia Military Parade.

4. It has also been argued that the Military Parade Competition instills discipline and meaning to military training. Well, to be frank about it, the discipline that they say this competition instills is supposed to be already innate in the participating school and just expressed in the competition. If a school contigent does not have discipline in their school, it will always show in their performance in the competition. Again, this argument does not hold water.

On our part, we have also several reasons that point out a stronger argument against not joining the competition.

1. Participation in the competition is getting more expensive every year. For our participation in the 2006 competition alone, we had to spend around more than P400,000.00, almost half a million for trainors, uniforms, make-up, allowances, transportation on the day itself, meals and other incidental expenses. For the uniforms alone, we had to spend more than P100,000.00 for the band alone. It should be noted that majorettes and band members are scholars of the school and therefore cannot afford to buy their uniforms on their own. The University spends for it. This does not include the revenues that are lost in scholarship programs for the band and majorettes. This also runs into the hundreds of thousands.

For the ROTC and CAT participants, we also have to spend for their meals and transportation on the day itself. The parents only shell out for the uniforms of their participant-children. Some parents save money by borrowing uniforms or renting it from others at a much lesser fee than providing their children with new ones. They also have to give their children allowances to defray expenses that they may incur while in Naga. The competition therefore also means more expenses for parents who are already burdened by the high cost of quality education.

Truly, participation in the parade has become impractical for us in the University of Northeastern Philippines, for our students and for our parents. Of course, as an institution, we can still afford it, but should we continue to spend onerously for an event, the objective of which can already be fulfilled effectively by other activities at a lesser cost?

2. Preparation for the competition has been physically draining for our students and our school. When we were still participating, preparation starts in May when we start drafting our operational plans for the year. Training starts in July. Student-participants train every day in the afternoons after class, increasing to a frantic crescendo as the competition draws near. Our majorettes and band members miss classes in the last two weeks before the parade as we let them focus on the competition. Therefore, they had to work harder than their classmates when they get back to their classes after the competition. Is this sacrifice worth it? We are compromising the academic performance of these students in order to perform our best in the competition. Is this fair?

3. There is also a problem of coming up with the right number of students to participate in the military competition. After the passage of the NSTP law which makes military training voluntary for students, there is a patent decrease of students choosing military training for their NSTP requirement. We had to make military training a requirement for our Criminology program as part of their curriculum to be assured of the numbers needed to come up with a contingent for the parade competition. This should also be addressed by the organizers of the event, something which until now, they have ignored.

4. Lastly, although admittedly we have no proof or evidence of this argument, we still want to express that we have great doubts in the carrying out of the rules of the competition. Through the years, although there seems to be great effort in addressing the concerns of the schools in terms of having a fair and just competition, still the issues prevail and continue to hound the organizers of the event. Our school cannot continue to subject itself to a competition whose organizers are suffering from a reputation of bias and lack of integrity. I regret having to say this, but this is the view of most of the school authorities in the University and we cannot discount this. Of course, I acknowledge that this is a subjective opinion, but like in any democratic country, we expect that our opinion also be respected. This is why we have declared and maintained that unless and until there is a revamp in the organizers of the event, we will continue to forego participation in the Penafrancia Military Parade Competition.

These being our sentiments, our institution proposes therefore the following recommendations:

1. On the issue of economic factors, we suggest that the LGU also defray some expenses of the participant schools by giving a mobilization fund that can somehow ease the burden of the participant schools. For example, maybe covering the transportation expenses or the meals of the participants would be a great help. It is should be noted that some schools ask the parents to defray the cost of transportation and meals. In our case, our school spends for it. We can take the case of the City of Legazpi which gives a token assistance of P10,000.00 to at least defray the cost of transportation everytime we are invited for a competition in their city. I hope the City of Naga considers this recommendation and follow the example of the City of Legazpi.

2. On the issue of the dwindling numbers of students participating in the ROTC program, the organizers can decrease the number of required warm bodies to come up with a contingent. I really do not know how they will do this, but maybe they can also promote the ROTC program in the schools.

3. On the issue of the integrity of the organizers, it is also necessary for the City to evaluate the performance of the organization carrying out this event. Is there a need for change? I also urge the City to conduct a consultation participated in by the schools to get their opinion regarding this issue.

Having said all these, we would like it to be clear that our school is not against military parade competitions. In fact, we have been conducting military parade competitions for several decades already during our Activation Day celebrations. However, we are one with the Bicol Association of Catholic Schools in saying that the military parade should not be conducted within the 9-day Novena to Our Lady of Penafrancia. We should focus more on Ina and on our faith and not in endeavours that actually has even the capability of eroding our faith to Ina.

We would also like to clarify that our school is not calling for a complete boycott of this competition by other schools, but rather a call to re-evaluate our purpose for participating in this event. I just hope that this article be able to aid the schools in reaching a decision that is just for all concerned.

With that, I still say, Happy Penafrancia Fiesta to all of us and may we just continue to respect each other’s opinion as what is expected in a free and democratic country.

Sunday, June 07, 2009

Passing the Real Estate Broker's Exams

Last Saturday morning, I was surprised when my mobile phone was inundated by texts from several people congratulating me on passing the Licensure Examn for Real Estate Brokers which I took last May 31, 2009 at the University ng Makati, JP Rizal, Makati City.

I couln't believe my great fortune. I had been on this quest since the late 1990s, taking the exam... I think twice on the prodding of my mother who has always been my booster in taking all sorts of exams for all sorts of reasons.

Previously, I did not pass it. The simple reason being that I did not study or prepare for it before thinking that attending the seminar is enough. Well... after my experience with taking the Bar Exams to which I passed on the first try, I have come to this exam more prepared and more studious than before.

My recent journey towards this goal has been prodded by the fact that allegedly, this year is the last year that the exams will be managed by the DTI. Next year, it will be the PRC which will manage the examinations leading to maybe requiring a Bachelor's Degree for this exam. I had two reasons for taking it: one, is that this being the last year of DTI and therefore perceived to be more easier to take and if ever this becomes a regular Bachelor's Degree program, I can easily open the course in our school. Second, is for my Mom. My Mom had always wanted to make me take the exam. It really is not clear to me why but she has always encouraged me to take this exam right after college and even the Exam for Insurance Brokers. Maybe when we have the celebratory dinner, I would be able to get a better grasp of her reasons. Professional reasons is a bonus but certainly is only on the background.

Preparing for the exams was quite difficult. During the seminar-review I was always late. I missed important topics. During the study period of about three weeks, I was very busy being the start of the school year. However, I decided to dedicate the last week before the exams to diligent study.

As I have done during my Bar Exams, I played the day of the exams in my mind taking note of what I might need. Although this time, I was more confident and thus did not do the overkill that I was famous for. Therefore, I did not lug around about 20 kilos of stuff as I did during the bar. Besides this is just a four-hour exam on one Sunday. I don't have to be that prolific.

What I was worried about though, being the Secretary of the seminar-review class I was tasked to arrange the transportation and accomodations of my classmate. I was also able to do this, but I did not want to be bothered that much during my stay in Manila so I brought along Manay Nilda Brila, my executive secretary to help me. She was our punong abala in Manila. Anything that the group needed she provided. I would not have such a worry free exam prep if not for Manay Nilda.

I would also make mention of the wonderful people of Kabayan Hotel Pasay. They are the most positive people in the world. They never say no on any of our request. Only if it is truly unreasonable that they do. When you are surrounded by such positive people, your mind clears up to accomodate more information which is maybe why I passed this exam.

Truly, it is an experience to remember. I will be blogging some more on this in the coming days. For now, again... thank you to all who congratulated me. All for the greater glory of God!

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Bicol Autonomy



Dr. Jose Abueva at the 2nd Bicol Forum at the USI Auditorium, March 26, 2009

Two days ago, I attended the Forum on Bicol Autonomy organized by Commodore Dante Jimenez of the Mariners Polytechnic Colleges and VACC fame. I was drawn into attendance by my own curiousity and I did not want to pass up seeing Dr. Jose Abueva again.

I was only supposed to attend as an observer... a "miron". However, I found myself suddenly elevated to become a reactor to the resource speakers representing the Academe.

My take on it is quite simple. I am all for Bicol Autonomy, in the same manner that I am for the parliamentary form of government and I am for Federalism. I feel that it is great that we are starting to talk about it and discussing it in forums.

However, before we even start talking about autonomy I think it should be clear what the proposals are. It is important to answer the 5 Ws and more importantly the 1 H first.

As I have pointed out -- are the Bicolanos prepared for this?

It seems a long way to go for this to reach mainstream advocacy, well, at least the first step was made towards this long journey to autonomy.

Monday, February 16, 2009

PAWD CONVENTION 2009


Direct Gaudencio Asanza, Director Benjamin Epres and Me

I have just arrived yesterday morning. I went to Cebu last week to attend the Philippine Association of Water District's (PAWD) Annual Convention at the Waterfront Hotel and Casino Lahug. Being the Iriga City Water District (ICWD) chairperson of the board, I have to attend to represent ICWD making me miss the Tinagba Festival completely. I had to content myself with text messages and calls from my people in Iriga.

It was a successful convention having been attended by at least 800 delegates. I appreciated the parallel session with directors from other water districts and the chance to meet suppliers and see new innovative products all geared towards effecient and effective water supply services.

However, Waterfront was not very good in their services. The food was completely another story. The lines were long on the buffet tables despite the fact that there were I think four buffet stations to serve us. The refill did not come promptly making us all the more hungry. There was one lunch time that all I got was one viand and some rice. I did not wait for the refill of the other viands anymore considering that the line was really long. No more soup, no more desert, just that one pork viand and some rice. I pity our muslim delegates. I hope they were able to get better fare.

The accomodation system was however very efficient. The check-in was in a different place than the front desk so making a line at the reception desk was prevented. It was also very quick. In five minutes, I was given my key to the room. The room was clean and orderly and had the all important mini-ref for my breast milk.

All in all, I would rate the convention a 7. The food really brought everything down. Well, you really cannot please all of us.

Sunday, January 11, 2009

DELIVERY








I had always been wondering why they call it a DELIVERY. I wish it was easy as that. I think it had to do with the stork thing -- that babies are delivered by storks. Well... at least my particular stork was one of the best storks ever.

I believe my story starts when I went to my Doctor November 17, 2008. She told me "mid-line ka na Peach. You will be giving birth already in a week." In a week? I thought... he's coming early. I was supposed to give birth first week of December. I thought... hmmm... no more afternoon walks at the mall then lest I suddenly give birth in the middle of Megamall.

Then, fast forward to the early evening of November 18, 2008. I felt unusually tired that day. I felt some cramps that similar to menstrual cramps. I just ignored it as Braxton-Hicks. I had worse abdominal cramps and aches when I had diarrhea the week before so I did not think much of it. I just slept but earlier than usual.

At around 1:00 AM, I woke up feeling the need to urinate. That was when I saw that my membrane had ruptured already. I called Manay Rachel -- our Mayordoma -- "I think its time already." She immediately prepared herself. I also knocked on the door of my parents room and woke them up too. My Dad immediately told my Mom to accompany me but I told him that I would be fine with Manay Rachel. It was me, Manay Rachel and my personal assistant Jen. We then proceeded to Medical City.

I was worried. My husband was still in Bicol. I called him up but he seemed disoriented having woken him up from sleep. Manay Rachel called him up and he left Iriga at 6AM.

However, my fears started to disappear. I looooove Medical City. They were so efficient. Everyone knew what they were doing and I truly felt so confident. My fears were more personal and did not have to do with the hospital or their staff. When I informed the emergency room person that I was going to give birth, he immediately called the person at the Maternity and in about 5 minutes I was wheeled to the Pre-Labor Room where I was interviewed and cleaned. At around 4 AM I was wheeled to the Labor Room where the epidural was attached to my back.

The Labor Room was quite nice. They had classical music piped in -- maybe to calm the mothers waiting for delivery. There was also a photomural on the wall -- which surprisingly was the same as the mural in our dining room. I was half-expecting Cho, our cook, to come in and bring nilagang baka. It was quite funny and truly calmed me more.

At the onset I was already prepared for a normal delivery. Although I did not take birthing classes, I read up on normal childbirth so I knew what to expect. However, I did not really plan on an epidural. I wanted it to be a natural birth sans pain relievers etc... However, I think it was the standard procedure in Medical City so I just played along. It is just fortunate that my birth was so textbook. No glitches at all. I prayed for a textbook birth because I wanted to recognize my time when it comes and it did, blood first, water at the hospital... etc... I was coming along pretty well also, my cervix was dilating on time also.

However, my baby's head would not descend according to the time that was expected. At around 11AM I was already 8cm but the baby is still not going down. The resident doctors and the nurses were concerned because the baby's heartrate was slowing down during contractions. At around 2PM in the afternoon, Dra. Abat, my OB-Gyne decided to ask me if I agree to a ceasarian section because the baby was starting to get distressed. I immediately agreed. I did not want to stress out the baby unnecessarily.

So at around 2:30 PM I was wheeled to the delivery room and the baby was out by 3:15 PM. Baby Nico's cry was not very loud, but maybe its just because I have been used to the loud screams of my brothers when they were growing up so it seemed weak to me. I was quite worried but the Doctors assured me that the baby was big.

The funny thing was, the Anesthesiologist said "Naku, misis, ang laki ng baby nyo. Parang maglalakad na." I really wanted to laugh but they were still closing up my uterus. They reasured me that the baby looked healthy. Truly, his APGAR score was 9.9.

When he was brought to me, I thought, he did not look at all the same as his picture in the 3D ultrasound. His face was all red and seemed "maga". He looked all scrunched up. But I felt relieved that he looked healthy.

Then at around 5PM, I think, I was wheeled to the Recovery Room to be there for about two hours. I was wheeled out at around 8PM. The first person I saw was of my husband's. I wanted to talk to him for great lengths but I was told not to talk, laugh or take anything to eat yet for fear of gas pains. I felt relieved. It is over.

My baby Nico has been delivered. Another chapter of our life starts.